CJ Webster LMFT

“Every person’s map of the world is as unique as their thumbprint. There are no two people alike… So in dealing with people, you try not to fit them to your concept of what they should be.”- Milton Erickson

Are you ready to take the next step but perhaps don't quite know where to start?

Are you overwhelmed and looking for a safe space to find your footing?

I know what it means to be on a journey and I know that on a typical journey you are not completely blindfolded and at the whim of your guide. The best guides allow you to have your own experience within their knowledgeable framework.

A little about my therapy style...

Engaged and Compassionate: The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines compassion as the "sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it." When you’re in my therapy room, you and your concerns are the priority.

Adaptive systems: I believe that you are a complex, ever-changing, organization of intellectual, biological, and emotional processes which have both conscious and unconscious dimensions. I see my job as helping you access those impressive self organizing and adaptive abilities.

Multipath communication: Every human culture, across millennia, has communicated on multiple levels (i.e. literally and figuratively, consciously and unconsciously, cognitive and experiential). I’ve found that utilizing multiple paths enhances and unlocks therapeutic options.

Systemic approach: In many situations people come to therapy due to the symptom of the problem, not the problem itself. If someone breaks their arm you wouldn’t expect a competent doctor to address only the pain and ignore the broken bone. Likewise, I take a whole system view to explore the most appropriate options.

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“Great,” Conor said. “Another story when there are more important things going on.” Stories are important, the monster said. They can be more important than anything. If they carry the truth.”

- Patrick Ness; Siobhan Dowd. A Monster Calls

My understanding of successful therapy...

Sometimes people will start with the concept that good therapy is the eradication of painful experiences. While a natural response, we deal with pain and discomfort all the time, but what often brings people to therapy is getting stuck and not knowing how to get past the concern. People are amazing and capable of more than they know, but they don't always know how to access those resources. Therefore, good therapy is not about everything being perfect (Utopia Syndrome), but is more about being able to respond successfully which, in turn, often lowers discomfort. Every living organism will encounter difficulty in some form to grow, change, and develop. As John Weakland states,

"Before successful therapy, it's the same damn thing over and over. After successful therapy, it's one damn thing after another."

Professional organizations and affiliations...

  • Wisconsin Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

  • Member of American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH)

  • Certification (Additional training and supervision) in Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH)

  • Clinical member of the Society of Clinical Experimental Hypnosis (SCEH)

  • Board member of Marriage and Family Therapy for Department of Safety and Professional Services (Governor appointed, Senate confirmed)

  • Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) 

  • Member of Wisconsin Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (WAMFT)

  • Approved AAMFT supervisor (additional training to supervise training license QTTs, interns, and facilitate internship classes at accredited colleges)

 

Professionals in all health fields must know how to see and hear things that clients do not even know they are communicating. As we listen, however, we must be constantly aware of our own assumptions and expectations regarding what we will hear.”- Kay Thompson

 

Common Questions...

How often do you recommend meeting?

If schedules allow, I ideally recommend having three weekly sessions to get started. At the third session we often discuss the timing of sessions based on your individual goals and needs. I like sessions to be far enough apart that what we talk about in session has time to be put into action but not so far apart that we’re just repeating previous sessions because there is no forward momentum.

How many sessions will I need?

The answer to that is different for different people as the most effective route in therapy is not always a straight line. Some people are best matched for a single session, others are on a long term growth journey and yet others are best matched with short bursts of multiple sessions with extended gaps. 

You have to say that cause I’m paying you, right?  

There’s a strong place for affirmation in therapy, but I wouldn’t be doing my job if I didn’t challenge you when necessary. In my therapy room you pay for the skill set and experience. The caring and attention is free.

What will the first few sessions look like?

Typically, at the first session we’ll discuss all the administrative factors we need to cover and I’ll be looking for a big picture understanding of your concerns and goals. The second session is a chance for me to dig into specific areas in more detail. It’s not unusual for change to occur from day one but this outline can help people understand why I’m asking the questions that I am.

Can you make….?

Yes, but I probably won’t. A thorough knowledge of psychology enables an individual to shape and influence others but in many cases taking this influence to the level of “making” an individual do or think something is often short lived success and often ultimately unhealthy.

When are you available?

My current availability for sessions is Monday to Friday: 11am to 7:30pm. Sessions for current clients can be booked online (stonetree.clientsecure.me) up to 2 months ahead.

I was referred to you but you're not accepting clients. What gives?

I went into private practice with the clear decision to prioritize care over profits or quantity. While there are certain business realitites that can't be avoided 

In my personal time…

Outside of the office I look forward to getting out of town and going camping with my wife and two dogs. I enjoy reading and, when time permits, I play a little piano or guitar. If I had to change jobs I’d probably look into audio engineering.